The Mommy Mask

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Since it’s the month of costumes, I have some intriguing thoughts about a specific piece of costume that we wear.

You know, as a mother it can seem like our title ends at “butt wiper” or “short order chef”. Our tireless days and nights surround us endlessly and we can feel as if we are drowning in dirty dishes and laundry on most regular basis. We wear our sacrificed dreams and desires like a belt of honor and charge forward in the trenches of motherhood. However, there is so much more beneath the dirty nails and uncombed hair than we can see with the naked eye.

I must admit, I had grown comfortable in assuming that the calling of motherhood was all I needed to worry about for a while but then I had a shift in my spirit. I thought to myself, “what kind of example of obedience am I setting for the sheep I am shepherding in my roll as a mother?” This question really rocked me and catapulted me to where I am now. I realized that maybe I had been using my season as an excuse instead of fuel for the journey.

So, here’s my big toe smashing question for us all today. Are we using the mask of motherhood to excuse ourselves from the mission?

There was a time when I thought that being a mother was all I could be in the season of motherhood, even though I felt God pulling me in a ministry direction. So I waited and ignored the pull. I was in sheer disobedience as I used my own wisdom to decide what was best. “Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the heart.  To do righteousness and justice is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice.”
Proverbs 21:2-3 ESV. All of my so called sacrifices made for my children added up to nothing because I stood in disobedience. I still struggle with this day-to-day as I take care of my kiddos and try to find time to do the other things I know I’m called to do. It’s not easy to look beyond what we think is possible all the time.

So, I really want us to think on that question. Have we been hiding? Surely many of us feel like being a mom is our only calling. But what if God is calling us to more. And not just more aside from motherhood. He may be calling you specifically to more as a mother. It may be discipleship with your children or sharing Christ with other mothers or serving in your local church. Overall we are all called to a mission bigger than parenting. We are called To Love God (Mark 12:28-29), To Love People(Mark 12:30-31), To Make Disciples (Mark 16:15), To Obedience (James 4:17). And if we are faithful in these, the fruit of our labor will be evident in all areas of our lives including motherhood.

I encourage you today to dig deep and ask God to reveal to you the areas that you may have ignored His gentle pulls, so that you can have another chance to act on His call.

Lord Jesus, thank You for your desire to walk out Your mission in us. Please forgive us where we have closed our ears to you. Help us to be quick to respond to Your voice. Give us the courage and wisdom to complete the tasks that you have set before us and to be the example for the people in our circles. Thank you God for the many second chances that You give to us. In Jesus Name AMEN!

Keep those ears open and Have a great day!

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9 thoughts on “The Mommy Mask

  1. sarah1 says:

    Wow, thank you so much for this. I sometimes question whether I need to focus on the home and the family 100%, or if it’s okay for me to spend some time writing. I struggled with it for a while, but I just couldn’t believe God would have put such a strong urge in me to write if I wasn’t meant to. And I am putting Him and family first, never taking time away from those two priorities, so I keep feeling great about it!

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    • J.E. Berry Speaks says:

      God honors our obedience. Whatever that looks like for us. Our children need to see us in obedient action so that they will seamlessly do the same when God calls them. So glad we can stand together in this.

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  2. Nisha says:

    Thank you, this is so where I am write now!

    I made an impulsive move and closed my blog , that was created to glorify God and encourage women to seek Him in our everyday lives.

    I thought I did the right thing. because it was challenging to find time to write as a wife, full-time home maker and mother of 4. I was striving to be more present. However, I can’t lose the the strong urge to write and the more I pray about it, the more it’s seems like it’s a part of my overall assignment. I thought that marriage and motherhood was my only goals, but I can see how I would use that as an excuse, when writing became a challenge or uncomfortable.

    Glad I found your blog. Its beautiful!

    -Nisha

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  3. betterthannewlyweds says:

    “I had grown comfortable in assuming that the calling of motherhood was all I needed to worry about for a while but then I had a shift in my spirit. I thought to myself, “what kind of example of obedience am I setting for the sheep I am shepherding in my roll as a mother?” This question really rocked me and catapulted me to where I am now. I realized that maybe I had been using my season as an excuse instead of fuel for the journey.”

    This is beautiful and speaks so much to me right now where I am as a new-ish mother with a 1 year old! 😀

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